Aly is quite right.
Although,one reason we make friends with the superior folk and don't get involved
with them otherwise is that the real treasures are too good to waste.
Romances can get hinky sometimes and falling in love has been known to lower the i.q.
about ten jillion points.
Smootchies can be obtained from people who are a lot less special than friends.
Good friends are indispensible.
Of course,one reason non-platonic relationships are ephemeral is that they tend to
lack the trust,openness and unconditional affection of friendship.
Even if lovers got that well acquainted,who could trust them with that kind of personal
knowledge?
Nope,you'd probably have to mind-wipe 'em or kill 'em.....
And,as was pointed out before,who would trade in a friend for a lover if they could
help it?
Friends are a lot more permanent and more valuable.
One reason great marriages are so rare and so important is that they,by definition,combine
the best of all kinds of love.
Trust me,when marriages fizzle,it's not because the agape and philios were in good order.
Concentrate on cultivating the only kind of intimacy that counts.
Any potential sweetheart with brains is going to find an affair without camaraderie a lot
less satisfying than a friendship-even one without skyrockets.
At worst,she'll value what she has with you above all else.
At best,she'll vow to never bind her heart to any relationship that's less than what y'all
share.
If it's right,the two of you can have that kind of bond together but even if it's not to be,
you'll know that y'all are too wise and too picky to settle for something less substantial
than what you deserve.
I wish you luck.
That unrequited crap hurts like the dickens.
Be very careful that no one is so enamored of the idea of the perfect love and belonging
that they'd attempt to bonsai a real friendship into a pseudo-romance just to graft what's
perfect about what they have together onto a fantasy.
Run like hell if you ever wonder if being with someone could feel as good as being
without them feels bad.
Real love should never feel desperate.
It should be the easiest,most natural,most synergistic experience you've ever known.
If that ain't happening,paste a clueless smile on your face and try to forget the moment of
madness ever happened.
One does survive these things.
One can even come to understand the song "Thank God for Unanswered Prayers."
But when it all comes together,whether with this person or someone else, it'll have all
been worth it-even the scary and hurtful parts.
