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Post by AlyWay on Aug 23, 2006 13:40:56 GMT -5
So my mom is coming for a visit this weekend. I am a cleaning mad woman at night this week. She is so proud that I have my act together. Working, 3 kids, house not in complete shambles. What she doesn't know is that I am flying by the seat of my pants. Most days I wonder when the responsible parent is coming to pick up their kids. I just hope that I am doing a good job. What I wouldn't give for a quick glimpse of the future to see how they turn out. No cake for me last night. What the heck is up with that?? Wife willing and he falls asleep. Oh well maybe tonight? I hate taking matters into my own hands if I don't have to.
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Post by Aunt Arlene on Aug 23, 2006 13:48:01 GMT -5
Aw.
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Post by dEz on Aug 23, 2006 17:42:13 GMT -5
Hi Aly -- you're a great Mom! I think it's more about the time you spend with them at night and the love you show them than anything else.
Is your Mom a "white tornado" regarding a clean house? My Mom is. Yeah, that would be nice .. but when you have kids and work something's not going to get done. Usually it's the cleaning.
Anyhow it's nice she's coming for a visit. Is she from Wisconsin too?
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Post by tjaman on Aug 23, 2006 18:07:32 GMT -5
When my mom shows up no matter what it looks like she cleans.
Maybe you can relax on the cleaning for a bit -- it looks exactly the same to a mom.
As for the other ... drop a few B-vitamins next to his dinner plate.
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Post by quantumcat on Aug 23, 2006 23:04:56 GMT -5
He might have figured you had worked too hard to get up and clean to get down and dirty.
While you don't want your mom catching the house looking like the aftermath of a frat party on Quortoth or finding unintentional science experiments in the fridge,you don't want to wear yourself out auditioning for Merry Maids.
By this time,your mother probably knows you're neither Martha Stewart ( "Putting out a Baccarat bowl full of Armagnac and a few rose petals will cut down on slugs in your garden and on your sidewalk.") nor quantumcat. (Household Hint #417: "Don't let dirty laundry pile up on the floor waiting to be washed. Toss it onto the ceiling. If it sticks,it's out of the way until you do the washing. If not,your husband will probably try to wear it to paint terrain in one more day.")
The people who count know who you are and love you for being exactly that.
They don't need a front.
The rest will find fault no matter what.
They'd be disappointed if you didn't come up deficient.
Let everyone pitch in to make your mom feel welcome but don't make her arrival a cause for dread by treating her as more worthy of special treatment than you'd give yourselves every day.
Anything you could hire to have done by a stranger ain't that vital.
All you NEED to provide is love.
Years from now,your kids won't obsess about store-bought food,soap scum,etc. near as much as they'll cherish the fact that you gave them good values,cared about their well-being, bothered to find out who they were,gave them unconditional love and demonstrated in your life how to be a bright,fun,intrepid,respectable person.
Think about it.
What do you focus on about the people in your life?
What they do-or who they are?
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