I really do miss you guys

[Charisma69]

It's been so crazy for me lately. I've been so busy and it seems like I keep getting busier.

I did finally get around to building my new computer and it is so very sweet. I'm very happy that it works and I can't wait to really put the new dual core processor through it's paces. Of course I actually need to be home for awhile to do that.

Heather moved back in, and brought her new boyfriend with her. So now my house is even more full - plus lots of drama. He seems okay, but I don't really see him that much. I'm not really even home much here lately. Too busy with work and other stuff.

Though, he did eavesdrop on one of my phone conversations and then told Heather what he overheard. Which involved a huge misunderstanding. He only heard parts of the conversation and drew his own conclusions. Basically he got Heather all upset for no reason which makes us both wonder if he really just misunderstood or if he wanted to cause trouble.

My son doesn't like him at all. He doesn't trust him. Plus, the guy - whose name is Brian funnily enough - tried to say that my son got into the Parrot Bay and was drinking. Turns out he was going on half truths again and it was a misunderstanding - which doesn't really make my son like him any better.

And all this because Heather was lonely and moved way too fast with this guy. Now she's getting really tired of him but we're kinda stuck with him until he gets enough money to move out. Well, I could kick his ass out but I just can't make someone go live in their car or anything.

Sometimes it sucks to be nice.

Also, I'm dating a new guy. Well, we've been seeing each other for a couple of months now. Or rather he's been chasing me for the last couple of months. We've only really gotten more serious the last few weeks.

He's a whole lot of fun - especially now that he dropped the whole Riley thing. I was seriously getting annoyed with that crap. I don't deal well with jealousy at all.

He's more than a little insecure since I have a ton of male friends. He's always making random comments about it.

I had a talk with him and told him he'd so have to drop the jealousy thing if he wanted things to go any further.

He finally listened to me and things are going pretty well. He still makes the occasional comment but it's not so bad now.

Oh, and did I mention the guy worships me? Not in a creepy way. In a way that makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

He even worked on my car yesterday - fixing an issue that my previous boyfriend ended up giving my car when he tried to "fix" it. Now my check engine light doesn't come on, the car runs smoothly, and my transmission isn't leaking.

Then, he made me a steak dinner. Not a bad way to spend the day.

Though I did have trouble driving home later. I'd been up since 3 a.m. since I had to open. I didn't leave his house till Midnight and it's a 20 minute drive back to my house.

I was having a ton of trouble staying awake on the way home.

We've been spending so much time either together or talking on the phone that I rarely have time to get online anymore.

I even totally spaced out the fact that "Drive" started so I had to watch the first few eps on FOX's MySpace page this weekend. I did set the dvr to record it from now on though. Oh, and I totally love it too.

I still need to watch tonights ep though. I just finished watching the others.

My son does like him which is a good thing. Though they really haven't been around each other too much. He's been over a few times and we've all played the Wii.

I'm going over to his house again tomorrow to watch movies. I'm going to bring "Serenity" this time. I told him he actually has to pay attention to this movie though. He thinks he's seen it before but he's not positive.

He is willing to watch it for me though, which is unlike the previous guy.

He really is sweet to me, but I'm not really sure if it'll work out forever or anything. For one I don't like to move to fast. I also don't like the whole "Riley" thing. That and he drinks a little much for my taste. He never acts drunk or anything and he's not mean but he is a drinker.

He has slowed down on that quite a bit being around me though. Well except this past Friday but we all got a bit carried away that night. Heather and I hadn't been to Outlaws in weeks so we had more than a little bit of fun that night.

I could tell you about that night, but then I'd have to kill you ...

Okay, maybe it wasn't that bad of a night, but I could so use that in my book about the soap opera that is Farmington. It would make for some really ... interesting reading.

I really hope this made some kinda sense. I'm tired. I so need to catch up on the sleep I missed this weekend. I'm glad I'm off the next two days.

I hope everyone is doing well. I really do miss you guys. I can't believe I missed out on Auntie's birthday. I'm such a bad friend lately.

I love you guys and I hope to catch up with you soon.

[quantumcat]

It's great to see you here again.

You have been missed.

Having a shiny new computer and a fella who treats you well
are not bad distractions.

Just remember to take care,go slow and follow your (and Enzo's!) instincts.

I can understand your wanting to help Heather and give this otherwise homeless
guy a break but he may be a LOT more trouble than he's worth.

You might look hard for him a place other than your home.

I don't know about the laws in Farmington but around here,if you don't have a person's
name on a lease or some kind of contract,they can have 'squatter's rights'.

(Landlords are NOT fond of this.)

The owner of the property could go through Hades getting them out if it looks as if
they were permitted to occupy the premises without a legal agreement and/or official
payment.

Here,the original renters get pitched out and the 'visitor' stays on-even if the property
is sold!

You have less recourse if the property is yours in that you can't just leave and rent a new
place without him.

Usually,once there's no one to pay the lion's share of the living expenses,do most of the
household chores,etc.,the squatter decides that a place big enough for boarders is too
big to handle alone -especially in an adversarial situation.

They get encouraged (read 'bribed') to abandon the house or apartment and move into
public housing or legitimate co-housing they can afford.

Check with a lawyer.

The last thing you want is a male version of Buffy's first college roommate making
your lives uncomfortable.

You might warn Heather to look ahead and imagine ALL negative scenarioes before
she gets into anything.

Most never happen outside movies on the Lifetime channel or James Patterson books.

(But some do.)

The first clue is when the acquaintance doesn't bother to safeguard against YOU being
the loser/nutcase.

Paranoia might be negative but caution can be a Godsend.

( I found this out the hard way. I really,REALLY needed to be a hermit.
I wanted to help out some buddies/defray costs/have some back-up but instead of
having a pleasant commune a la the Scoobies,!Cynthia ,the Firefly crew and the
brownstone residents at General Hospital,I wound up with the equivalent of Warren,
Harmony and a horde of prepubescent Reavers. Do NOT try this at home!)

You are too terrific a person to make do with potential headaches and heartaches.

Make sure that all those nagging qualms get addressed and fixed instead off you
just learning to tolerate the intolerable.

It's your life,your heart and your home.

The people who matter will value your well-being and won't be offended if you do
the same.

[GreatMuppetyNick]

Real life trumps BRIAN any day.

And I mean that in the best possible way. ;D

Yay, Cordy.

[TheMasterGeek]

I share the same sentiment with Nick, and wish you the good luck the life.

[Charisma69]

Thanks guys. You are so very sweet.

Right now Heather is in the process of kicking him out. He took her car to work the other day without her permission. Then she found out he was hotrodding it.

She was pissed to say the least. She wanted him out last night but he has no place to go. He's not from here so he has no family he can stay with.

He's going to sleep on the couch until he can find another place - which had better be soon.

He tried dragging me in the middle of this by saying it was my house so I'm the only one that can kick him out. He tried talking me into letting him stay.

I told him that I didn't care if he slept on the couch till he could find a place - but he had to okay that with Heather first.

Well, he didn't tell Heather that so she called me really upset last night asking me why I told him he could stay.

I let her know what I actually said, and reminded her that I had already told her this earlier when I called her.

In the meantime Brad decides - I was over at his house - to add his two cents in. He yells into the phone, "You can't just expect a guy to get out in one day."

Which really added full to the fire. So I had to calm her down, and I yelled at him for yelling into the phone.

So then Brad was mad at me. He stormed back into his house.

After I got off the phone we had a huge discussion about it. He wanted to know why I had a problem with what he said since we agreed that the poor guy just couldn't be put out on the street like that.

I said, it's the way you said it. That wasn't the time to say that. That was the time to try to get Heather to calm down. After she's calm is the time to rationalize with her and let her know the guy can't really be expected to be able to find a place in a couple of hours.

So then he's lecturing me on how my friend isn't always truthful and crap like that.

We finally made up but I so didn't need him in my business like that. He really wasn't helping at all.

It's been a dramatic couple of days and now I'm really tired. So much for peaceful days off.

[Dr. Purple Goddess]

And OMG Cordy, it's great seeing you again!

I can't say I blame your friend Heather for wanting to get rid of him quickly. I mean especially if she's really thinking she's made a huge mistake with this guy. I think her biggest worry is that she doesn't want this situation to escalate into something that's going to cause problems for the whole household.

I know I've experienced that before where I knew I flubbed up and wish I could just make it disappear before something really bad happens.

Hopefully this guy won't camp on your couch for too long though. More importantly I hope he doesn't know anything about the phrase "squatter's rights" because THAT could get messy.

Honestly though, if Heather brought him in, she needs to be the one to help him get out. It might be worth paying for a bus ticket somewhere.

In any case, I wish you good luck with all that. I hope it goes smoothly and all works out.

[Charisma69]

drfeigypants said:

And OMG Cordy, it's great seeing you again!

Thanks Feigy. It's good to see you again too. I've really missed you.

I'm hoping he doesn't try to push the squatter's rights thing. I'm fairly certain he does know about it though.

I know he's tried to manipulate things to where Heather and I will get in a fight.

He tried telling her that me and him are the best of buds. I mostly stay in my room if he's home when I am. I barely talk to the guy. Especially after he was eavesdropping on one of my phone conversations.

He's only been here for two weeks but he's been so annoying.

[Dr. Purple Goddess]

Man he's only been there 2 weeks? I would have thought he'd been there longer what with all the craziness already going on. He totally needs to find a new place if he's causing that much trouble already. It's only going to get worse.

It's your house. You shouldn't have to hide away in your room. But, I understand how that is. When I had roomates I did a lot of that. Not because I didn't like them. Just simply because I needed some ME time when I was at home.

Well, I hope you and Heather get it figured out. And hopefully before it starts effecting Enzo in any kind of negative way.